Wednesday, 28 March 2007

Aisya: Syazwan, The Little Boy We All Forgot...


There is one person we have all forgotten in Aisya's story, and that is her little brother Mohd Syazwan, a 7 year-old, who thankfully, is 'normal' in all aspects...

As we all know, sibling rivalry is something which happens in all families, whether friendly rivalry or something which is deeper than that...

But imagine what life must be like for little Syazwan...He was the only child for a good 3 years of his life, and if we were to judge by the way both Kak Yatie and En Shahidan dote on Aisya, (and despite it being very frustrating emotionally, they don't lose their temper) I can almost bet that he was a pampered child who was showered with all the love, care and attention a child could ask for...

So, can you imagine what it must have been like for Syazwan? He was the king of the house for a good 3-years or so, and suddenly little Aisya comes into the Shahidan family's life...Little Aisya who suddenly became the centre of everyone's universe...Little Aisya who his mother spends 24 hours with...

It would be all the worse if Syazwan did not 'ask' for a sibling in the first place, because it would feel as if darling Aisya was 'forced' into his life...

Now, what would any child have done, normally? Probably withdraw into his little shell, be 'rebellious' in little ways (like refusing to eat his dinner), believe he himself was sick so he too would get the same attention, have an uncontrollable temper...The list of possibilities is endless...

Many children (I'm not saying all) might even start exhibiting outward symptoms of illness, that has no origin, reason or cause...Like chronic tummy ache/upset stomach, headaches and a host of other symptoms...

Of course these children are not intentionally faking it...It's psychological; an outward manifestation because the mind has subconsciously associated illness with love, care and attention...

*Sheesh...I'm a Psychology-Major student lar...*

But little Syazwan did no such thing...

All he did was ask his mum one thing: "Kalau saya sakit, mak jaga tak macam mak jaga adik? (If I were sick, would you (mum) take care of me like you take care of Aisya?)"...

To which Kak Yatie replied: "Macam tu lah mak jaga adik, macam tu lah mak jaga Syazwan(The way I care for Aisya is the way I would care for you)."

Kak Yatie concedes she was stunned by Syazwan's question, because in caring for Aisya round-the-clock, she inadvertently forgot that Syazwan was watching and feeling isolated...

I want to draw your attention to Syazwan's question. This little boy didn't say 'Why do you love Aisya more?' or the classic child's 'I hate you!' (children don't understand the word 'hate') or keep pestering his parents for things to justify that they still cared...

His question showed that he was merely seeking reassurance that they (his parents) would be there for him like they are for Aisya if he ever needed them like that too...I guess he was saying in his own way: 'Mum, Dad, I know Aisya needs you. But promise me that if I need you, you'll be there'...

So profound, isn't it?

Syazwan is just a little child, and yet he sees things with more maturity than most people see their entire life...*If you're momentarily stumped for examples, think of the guy who asked ladies to wear chastity belts because it's their fault they are raped*...

It's true what people say. Everyone has to sacrifice when there is calamity in a family...Everyone has to grow up...In little Syazwan's case, it's a pity he had to grow up a lot faster than what is expected of him...A lot faster...

So people, if you ever pay a visit to the Shahidan home, remember Syazwan, won't you?

It doesn't have to be much...A simple toy, a box-drink, a small bag of sweets or chocolate, or even just slipping a few ringgit in his hand for him to buy anything he wishes...

You should have seen how his face lit up when my mother gave him a bag of Kentucky complete with ice-cream+jelly and Chicky-Meal toy...

It was a simple gesture...Nothing expensive, nothing out-of-the-ordinary, nothing which took a few hours to obtain...

And yet, it made his day...

Like they say:-

The smile on a child's face: Priceless...

8 comments:

Anonymous said...

interesting view of somoene else in the family. i would never had thought about it.
-Kin Loong-

Tai See-Wern said...

I dont know you but I think youll make a great psychologist. Youve got the right concepts, the right attitude, the right frame of mind and heart in the right place. Good luck. By the way, where are you studying? Not HELP I hope...:-)

Adele said...

Hey I already replied to your comment but I guess I should tell you here too. My livejournal is friends-only protected, meaning you have to have a livejournal account and I have to add you for you to read my entries. I'm really sorry, but you prolly know about all those weirdos out there. I've had many.
Anyway, if you decide to join us happy people at LJ, you're always welcome at my blog. I'll be keeping an eye on yours, of course. :P

Anonymous said...

poor syazwan. he has remained very strong hasnt he? my heart goes out to him.

komaladevi said...

I came here from MarinaM's blog. Doing a good job. She's right. Keep it up. I am glad to know people are responding to Aisya and her story.

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I couldn't help but be amazed by your maturity in every subject matter. You are truly a kind soul, someone we all desperately need in this cold, unfeeling world.
I'm also a psychology student who will be graduating soon. What you're doing now is actually exactly what I would like to be striving for in the (near) future.
Seeing your hard work and efforts have really motivated and encouraged me to serve others further.
Thank you for being such an inspiration.
God bless..

Yu Tsing said...

stumbled upon this site.
great post!

MJ said...

Uh. I think my previous comment here wasn't up or my word verification failed.

Syazwan is such a sweet, understanding son and brother! He has a pure heart, not jealous of his sister.

When I was younger, I accused my mother, "You are bias! You love him more than me!" when my brother was given pocket money at a younger age than when I got my first.

Btw, I'm MJ too, just not Melayu Jati :p