Saturday, 14 April 2007
Aisya: I, Reply...
Photo from The Star
When I first saw Melayu Jati’s message, it slapped me across the face,
I wondered if he was stupid to still be talking about race,
But then I saw he thought me stealing from Aisya, of all deeds done,
Disembowel him I would, if I had butcher-knife, stake and gun.
Really, hello, have you actually been following the story?
How to steal money when I’ve not touched or smelled any,
As for diapers, milk and nestum, I’m sure you all agree,
Why would I want that, unless Duh! I have a baby.
I could have come here to swear and spit and curse,
But why should I sink so low, for I’ll be none the worse,
MJ, in case you haven’t heard, we live in the Land-of-Boleh,
Frogs like you (into your tempurung!), are just not worth our day!
The donations today stand at RM 14, 450 and I am pleased to inform you all that we have pledges of a year’s supply of nestum, milk, diapers, and glucose. This is of course in addition to pledges from two sponsors to pay for Aisya’s suction machine…
I think it is time everyone hears my side of the story too:-
I know many are thinking that I am merajuk-ing which is why I am backing out, but I want you all to understand that I think I need to draw a line too.
Melayu Jati’s (Oh, MJ will do) message was not the first. I have received a few emails from people of various races (yes, “my” own people too) questioning my intentions, but from very wise advise from MarinaM, I ignored them.
MJ however, I believe, has gone a little too far. And I think there comes a time
when I need to put my foot down too.The power of suggestion is unfortunately, a very strong tool. If there are people going around saying things like what MJ has said, sooner or later, seeds of suspicion will begin to flourish.
And I refuse to let that happen. I refuse for something which is inherently, a selfless act of the community, to be turned into a lame excuse for a spit-fire. I refuse to let this campaign be tarnished by evil and snide comments.
I am not asking for people to worship the ground I walk on, but yes, I do
ask those with nothing constructive or helpful, to please shut up, lock the mouth, and throw away the key.
When we started, quite a few readers suggested we go to the press. The reason why I was adamant not to (and Kak Pi and MarinaM agree) was because I felt that:-
1) The family is not in need of money for something desperate like an impending do-or-die surgery for Aisya. We are merely helping them back on their feet, and in the course of it, let them know that we have not forgotten them.
2) Aisya is desperately terrified of strangers, and by highlighting her story in the press, we are opening doors for politicians/corporate organizations/members of the public to bunny-hop to her home, complete with curious by-standers and story-hungry press.
3) We should strive to protect the pride of the family, and of Aisya. Curiousity is something which rides the pinnacle in society today, and with Aisya’s very rare condition, people will be prone to go ogle her like some exhibition, and I was adamant about not opening doors for people to do so.
To be completely honest, I never, in my wildest dreams, expected that bloggers and their readers would be so receptive, and so generous, in so short a time. That I believe, is a landmark for all of us today, because it shows that while there are people like MJ, there are a lot of us who are not like that.
I think we have done a lot together, and this is one milestone (small, yes, but substantial) for our Golden Jubilee celebration. There are many Aisya’s in today’s society, and I am proud to know that we all stood up for one. After all, the best societies are the caring ones, no?
I’ll update all of you about Aisya in a year’s time, or if needed, in six months.
I want to take this opportunity to thank all the donors on behalf of Aisya’s family,
and to thank all the people who placed enough faith in me (MJ, stay in your tempurung!) to give with their hearts.
Also I think we all need to please thank all the bloggers who highlighted (directly and indirectly) Aisya’s plight:
MarinaM, Pi Bani, Jeff Ooi, Rocky, Nuraina Samad, Zorro, Susan Loone, June Tan, Azmi Ahmad, Ionbuck, Jenn (from USA) and Moola.
And to my friends who posted on their blogs: KitSze, SzeToo, Tiffany, KoK, Julian, WanAisyah, Innshan, thanks a lot too.
Let’s just all give ourselves a pat on the back ok =) and not get stressed up by people like MJ. Why raise the statistics of Malaysians with high blood pressure just because of some frogs?
Will keep in touch.
Daphne ‘In-need-of-rest’ Ling
Ps: Altogether now...*Ribbit*...= )