Monday, 9 April 2007

Aisya's List...

Photo by Zabidi Tusin (The Star)

Dear all,

Donations for Siti Aisya have reached slightly over RM 8100...The donations (some of which have been cashed, some still in cheque form, some in money order) came from as far as Sabah! The Shahidans are extremely grateful for everyone's generosity, and I would like to take this opportunity to thank everyone on their behalf...

Kak Pi too has just informed me that she has in hand another RM 500...

This just in: *A cheque of US$ 200 just arrived, all the way from the USA, for Aisya...*Sorry Sabah, kalah la in terms of distance!*...

The Shahidans received an anonymous donation of RM 2000 today (11/4), which means donations have now reached RM 11 400!*

I promised to provide a list of things that can be donated to Aisya, as some people find it erm, 'unsafe' to give money. Below are a list of things she needs, which we can help the family with:-


Darling Aisya is only 8 kgs plus, so she generally wears a size M. She goes through about 7-8 pieces a day as the family now buys her the cheaper grade diapers, which are not very absorbent. This can go up to about 10 pieces a day. Anyway, we'll assume she uses about 8 pieces a day, which means she will need about 240 pieces of diapers in a month.

To sidetrack a bit: I suppose if she uses a better quality one, Aisya will not need as many, but it's just an opinion of mine...So maybe if someone wants to donate better quality diapers, she can make with 6 pieces a day?

I know for a fact that there are cheap brands from Tesco, Giant and this brand called Baby-Ku (A bag of about 80-slightly-more pieces are about RM 30-35). So Aisya will need about 3 bags a month...The more expensive will include Huggies, Mamy Poko (I think it is the most expensive on the market) etc...

Total, for a year:-

Approximately 36 bags (cheaper quality); 27 bags (More expensive quality)

Pledge(s) so far: 6 Bags (From Anonymous)...An RM 1500 pledge for diapers from Mr Andrew Chuah, which I believe is enough to cover one year's supply, as we already have 6 bags from Anonymous...


Her daily porridge, fish, chicken, vegetables etc will be seen to by the family...

But if anyone can see to her milk, nestum and glucose, it will be most appreciated by the Shahidans.

At present, Aisya takes Anmum milk (3 years and above, any flavour). The pediatrician/dietitian have advised the parents to switch to PediaSure, but due to the steeper price, they have not done so. Aisya needs about 2 tins every month (1.8 kg per tin).

As for Nestum, she goes through about one tin on an average month (Price: About RM 9 per tin, unless you get it during promotions)...

Total, for a year:-

Milk: Approximately 48 (900 grams x 4) tins *Sponsored by Mr Ben Yeow*
Nestum: 12 tins (RM 108) *Sponsored by Mdm Sarojini*
Glucose/Polycose: 12-18 tins *Sponsored by Mr Santokh Singh*

Portable Suction Machine

The Shahidans are thinking of buying a portable, light-weight, battery-powered suction machine for Aisya. The present one which they are using is heavy and electrically-powered and was sponsored by Baitumal. The fact that it is electrically-powered means that they cannot carry it along with them when they take Aisya out, especially to HUKM for treatment.

As you all know, Aisya breathes through an opening in her trachea (in the neck). This opening has to be cleaned periodically to remove mucus, fluids, phlegm etc, thus the need for the machine.

The portable one is available from a supplier in Puchong (specifically, I don't know yet), and the cost is about RM 1600...

Pledge: 50% of cost of machine (From Anonymous), 50% of cost from Mr & Mrs Soon Poh Seng...


My hope is that we can all help to raise these products for Aisya for one year...This is to give the family time to try and stand on their own feet again, and I think one year is fair and sufficient...I don't want them to have to worry about Aisya's needs while they try and regain their foothold...When money is tight, you can cut back on clothes, vacations, phone bills, etc, but not Aisya's needs, right?

As usual, please feel free to contact me if you need to, either by email, phone or as a comment...

Please leave me a note if you wish to donate, so that I can update the list with what has a sponsor so we don't have repetitions...Doesn't have to be full year donation: You could just say: "I'll sponsor two months of *fill in the blanks*"...

Cheers people! Thanks for the generous spirit and support...


ae mi said...

Hey nai..

Sorry, no in from me yet, in a bit of a tight spot these days.. but give me a while.. it'll come from Wei Chieh's first pay.. hehe ;P

Or perhaps.. with a bit of luck.. from my scholarship..

Love you so so much.. and Aisya is very lucky to have you help her.. muakz!

Anonymous said...

Have you guys tought of going to the newspapers?

Anonymous said...

any bank acc no to bank in the money?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anita,

No, we do not plan to go to the papers...One of the reasons is because Aisya is not in any need of immediate surgery; We're only trying to help the family re-stand on their own two feet, and trying to help see to Aisya's needs while they attempt to get back their foothold...

Going to the papers would definitely mean a lot more money (although they might not want to take up the cause because no surgery is involved), but then many people/politicians/organisations would be flocking to Aisya's home to donate money and in the process want their pictures in the newspaper...

Let's try and maintain the family's pride and not turn Aisya into some circus exhibition to be ogled at, especially since she's terrified of strangers...Will only resort to that when she is in need of large amounts of money for surgery etc...


Hi Anonymous 10.22 am,

I wish to reiterate that we will not be publishing their bank account number for fear of unscrupulous people who are out to do more harm than good...Sorry =)...

If you wish to pledge something, let me know, and we'll work out a way for your goods to reach them, ok?


I hope I answered both your questions...


Anonymous said...

thanx for the updates!

Anonymous said...

Daphne, Came here from Zorros blog from the comments. Looks like you got it all planned up so keep up the wrok

Tiara said...

Hey Daphne,

Are you the same Daphne that traveled to Mabul with the BRATs in 2003? If you are, hello - it's Tiara from the same group :)

Anyway, just found out about your cause and would like to help out from Australia. If you could email me the details at , that would be great :)

keep in touch!

the Razzler said...

Dear Daphne ..

I am very hurt & disturb by the unwarranted outburst by `Melayu Jati'. It's a shame, really that someone with such narrow & selfish mindset even exist on our lovely planet!!

What you did was a noble deed. Please do not pay heed to such narrow minded comments. carry on your quest, Dear!! We need more people like you to make our life more meaningful.

And to Siti Aisya's parents & Siti Aisya, be strong in this trying times for we have angels like Daphne around who aspires to make our life better.

Take care .. :) :)

Anonymous said...

Kakak Daphne,

My name is Farahana and I want you to know my whole family very marah with the Melayu Jati. I think you are doing a good job and hopefully next time I can be like you.

Salam sayang,

HA said...

Dear Daphne,

I left a comment on Kak Marina's blog regarding Melayu Jati's outburst. I also left a message for you in my comment but in case you didn't get it -- here it is.


To Daphne, I truly admire your efforts and I hope you will not let such ... (words have failed me; I'm just disgusted) ... "feedback" impede upon your good will. Here's a little poem my mom shared with me and I hope it'll prove worthwhile for you.


People are often unreasonable, illogical, and self centered
Forgive them anyway
If you are kind, people may accuse you of selfish, ulterior motives
Be kind anyway
If you are successful, you will win some false friends and some true enemies
Succeed anyway
If you are honest and frank, people may cheat you
Be honest and frank anyway
What you spend years building, someone could destroy overnight
Build anyway
If you find serenity and happiness, they may be jealous
Be happy anyway
The good you do today, people will often forget tomorrow
Do good anyway
Give the world the best you have, and it may never be enough
Give the world the best you've got anyway
You see, in the final analysis, it is between you and God
It was never between you and them anyway

God bless.

Linken Lim said...

Hi Daphne,
Just read from Marina M that there's an unwanted outburst by one called "he? she? it!!"
This stupid guy has forgotten that :

"When you point the finger at someone, look at your hand and remember that three of your own fingers are pointing back at you.."

Don't quit,Daphne, you are doing the right thing.
God bless you !

J.T. said...

Daphne, I just read Marina M's posting. As difficult as it may seem, try to ignore what "Melayu Jati" said. Following up on what Linken Lim said, I truly believe in this quote:

"When one person makes an accusation, check to be sure he himself is not the guilty one. Sometimes it is those whose case is weak who make the most clamour" - Piers Anthony

Daphne, we need angels like you. You define the kind of Malaysian I knew in the good old days when neighbours cared for each other.
God Bless You!

Anonymous said...

Daphne, what you did is just what we need in this country. keep it up and God Bless you.