Wednesday, 25 July 2007

Of Leather and Fishnet Stockings...


Sigh...


Today, a few of my friends dressed in leather and fishnet-stockings came and asked if I would like to go clubbing with them.

I said 'No'...

At first, one of them looked at me incredulously, after which she said: "Have you ever gone clubbing?"

When I again said 'No', her jaw must have hit the floor...

They tried to persuade me into going, but I was adamant about not going, and then one of them said: "Why are you such a goodie-two-shoes?"



Hmmm...That got me thinking...



Many people seem to think that being away from home is licence to go wild...Go partying, clubbing, pubbing, karaoke-ing, and shopping...Really paint the town red as if there was no tomorrow...Many seem to think that what was once 'wrong' will become 'correct' when you leave home...



Is it?

I don't think so...


I don't think I'm a goody-two-shoe; I merely believe in my principals...I am all for trying new things, but there should be a personal limit, right?

Is that so wrong?



Just because I'm away from home and I don't have to ask for permission to go out at all times of the day, does this mean I should take advantage of the freedom and just really let my hair down and let loose...And come home at 3 am in the morning, just because mum is not there to kill me?


I know to many people, it's not cool to admit you've never gone clubbing, but I really am not the kind of person to go clubbing...

So why should I sacrifice my principals just because many people think it's not cool?



I don't go clubbing and pubbing not just because my parents don't approve (they don't)...

I also don't go because I don't condone spoiling your body (excessive noise, smoke, liquor, drugs, to name a few)...For one, I cannot stand cigarette smoke, and I can't so much as breathe when there is even a trace of the smoke in the air...Why torture myself, go red in the face, splutter like mad, all because I want to look cool?


Sorry, but I refuse to die even earlier just because of an image upgrade...Didn't anybody read all those articles that say that second-hand smoke kills even faster? Or does all that threat of lung-cancer make you high? I wonder how high you will be when you're having tons of cytotoxic drugs pumped into your system when you're dying from Lung Cancer...


I know not all clubbing is about drinking, smoking, drugs and noise, but why put yourself in that position in the first place, where things might happen? Has nobody else but me read about the dangers that happen when youngsters with raging hormones get drunk? Has nobody but me read about the dangers of having your drink spiked?


I don't force my beliefs on people and expect everyone to not go because I don't believe in it, but really, is it so much to ask that you respect my beliefs as well? I don't poke fun at people who smoke or those who drink (and am firm friends with them), so why should anyone poke fun at me if I don't?


Tell me, people, am I so wrong in sticking with what I believe in?


Hey, if nothing else, I'm doing society a favour by not going clubbing...

Because really, alot of people might die of a heart attack if I decide to wear leather and fishnet stockings...

Die of excessive laughter and shock, which will cause the heart attack...


Muahaha...


31 comments:

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

when u mentioned leather and fishnets, bondage comes to mind but thats a different matter all together.

some may think i dont go clubbing bcos of my condition but i can tell u this, my friends love partying but finds clubbing as not really the 'in' thing anymore. and guess what, they're all abled-bodies. u dont need loud music just to let ur hair down. with the right company, it sounds fun to me already.

btw, i'm here to thank u for the support. its been quite hectic but pleased with the feedbacks i get.

thumbs up to u, daphne!

Jo-D said...

Daphne,
You are not a goody goody. You stand by what you belief in and that's something I admire. Your parents have brought you up well and your action and decisions are testimony of this. Stay the way you are. Don't bow to pressure! Hugs.

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Kerp (Ph.D),

Thanks for coming by, and welcome once again to the world of blogging!

You're right...You don't need louad music etc to have fun...Everyone has their own version of what they enjoy, and I prefer quiet enjoyment!

I guess I'm essentially an introvert by nature =)

Keep up the spirit Kerp!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Jo-D,
Thanks for the kind words...I better go tell my parents, and ask for a raise in my allowance! *Hehehehe*...Just kidding!
But seriously, peer pressure, although often times over-rated, is very real...It helps I don't care how cool (or not) I look...=)

PrincessJournals said...

Let me see,"(excessive noise, smoke, liquor, drugs, to name a few)". I smoke, drink and love clubbing but definite no-no to drugs but I dont think other ppl who dont are not cool nor tht its cool doing wht i do.

In fact, I hate ppl who force others to join them (to smoke and drink).

As for u my dear, if u havent done it, better not start. Always stand for wht u believe is right/good for u.

Pi Bani said...

Go clubbing and get clubbed!! ;)

Stick to what you believe in, Daph. So what if people think you're a goodie-2-shoes.

*imagining you in leather and fishnet stockings* ;)

kina said...

Fish net stockings is "in" now?

kekekekeeee... reminds me of the 70s je..

Daphne dear,
clubbing is not that cool anyway, loud music, smell of liquor in the air, yuckssss... can say so, becoz, been there and done that, and now i am thinking why the hell did i think that clubbing was so cool? duhhhh!!!

Stick to your guns babe!

Anonymous said...

If my children were any bit as matured as you I will be in heaven. I try to teach them like anything but once my back is turned, they do as they like. Stick to what you believe in especially if right! YOure very wise person.

WP said...

No way, you're no goodie-two-shoes, the "muahaha" shows it. lol

Anyway, I think you're right to stick to your beliefs; good for you!

Anonymous said...

Hi,

I used to face the same situation when studying away from family so I can understand your feeling here. But..but... stay the way you are.. I am still. I guess its always the way we were brought up!!! Thanks.

P/S : Always enjoy reading your blog

the Razzler said...

Dear Daphne ...

There's another principle which I holds dear to:-

'Your Belief creates your Biology!!'

Your belief have made you to be one of the most kind & loving souls walking on the face of our planet ... stay strong to your principles & be proud of who you are!!

I know that I am mighty proud of you ... & of course, I am sure, your loving parents & everyone whose life you have touched, too!!

sankochan said...

I wanna try~~~~ T_T just because I kay poh... never got the guts to go....


Pluck pluck pluck~~

J.T. said...

Hey Daphne,

Everyone has his/her own form of enjoyment. It is a personal choice and it should not be forced on others.

Just because I did not go clubbing regularly (and that too, only when I started working), I was not considered 'happening' by some party pals. I had many reasons for not making clubs my "other homes" on weekends but the strongest reason was dad. If I clubbed excessively, something would be 'happening' to me! haha

Anyway, stand by your principles. So proud of you. :) *hugs*

P.S.Really Daphne, leather and fishnet stockings??? OK, leather I can imagine. Fishnet, maybe but that combination is so not 'happening' - at least for me lah. Ya lah.. some people say it is a 'hot' look - sure, sure. It could be an invitation for many sizzling hours after the club closes. haha

Mat Salo said...

Daphne,

Heh-heh, I am guilty of ALL the things you mentioned, and then some.. :)

Important thing is, just be true to yourself. Don't worry about what people think..

You're doin' good, girl!

Hmmm, now you make my imagination work overtime. Fish-net eh? Leather? Wow!!

Steve O' said...

somehow, i was linked here.
no hard feelings ya?

remember me from MM's blog?
Im not a bad person if u got to know me :)

oh btw, i was pleasantly suprised to read yr profile. Some of my closest of friends are Bahai's. Maybe u know them. Most from KL..the cheniah's (aunty lilly, safura, mehran etc) the peter's and a few others :)

in fact i was invited to a few of the functions ( i think it was called the 19th day feast and another called nowrus- spelling?) .. could be wrong sorry. I have read loads of books on your beliefs, and im impressed. too bad i do not comform to any institutionalised religions..

But in my tour of delhi, i also visited a beautiful temple the shape of a lotus. i loved it.. reminds me of sydney opera hse.

anyway, see u around in blogsphere. i too have a blog, but i dont think u can handle it..cos u seem so innocent tht i do not want to corrupt u **wink wink

Nightwing said...

Good on you in sticking up to what you believe in. Stay true to yourself, don;t give in to peer pressure...keep it up.

Look at the present glamour girls in the States, Paris, Britney and now the latest Lindsay...i can bet all of them was not brought up that way (may be except Paris)...

but due to the 'in thing' mentality and peer pressure...they fell for it and now paying for it.

You stay who you are.
Cheers.

jimi said...

Apalah seronoknya 'clubbing' tu? Keputusan yang betul, Daph.

Apa khabar sekarang? sihat?

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Princess Journals,
Yeah, I know you smoke and all, but I'm still your friend no? And I never said a word about it no? So yeah, thanks for not saying a word too =)!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Kak Pi,
Aiyo...Don't go imagining me in fishnet stockings and leather and all...*Tsk Tsk*...

Hi Kina,
Thanks for coming over. Yes, am sticking to my guns...Can't go anyway...Can't breathe =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon 10.57,
Haha...I don't know what else to say to that...But I guess besides upbringing, there's personal choice too no? Anyway, I'm a guilty-pot...If I do something I shouldn't, I'll be the first to blab...Nobody needs to turn me in...I'll do it myself!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey WP,
Thanks for coming by. You likey the Muahaha?
Well, here goes: Muahahahahahaha (Extended laugh) ;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon 1.36,

Thank you for liking me blog *Itu feather kembang-ing*...

I guess it's something that everyone goes through in their life at least once. The need to conform, the need to be different, the need to stand out, the need to belong...The list goes on and on and on!

But what is soo great about being part of such a large group of conformist, I don't understand!
After all, you become nothing but one of many...

Nothing that great huh?

Daphne Ling said...

Hey The Razzler,

"Your belief creates your biology"

Hmmm...Never heard of that before, but sounds good and true!

Thank you for such ego-boosting words! Haha...

By the way, you never updated us what happened to your new car (in your blog)...Dah sampai ke belum?

Daphne Ling said...

Hey SankoChan,
Aiya, you Queen of kay-poh lar...Queen of drama also...Sad to say, I can't beat you in that oh!

Hey JT,
You know, I think we're pretty alike (as in same likes, dislikes), although you might be a tad bit wilder than me! Haha...So yes, will be sticking to it! Hope you're doing good, and looking forward to 'seeing' you somewhere soon...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mat Salo,
Ahhh...Another one who has an over-active imagination...I don't know...I didn't think the leather and fishnets on my friends did them any good...But then again, I'm a girl, so I wasn't turned on lar ;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Steve O',

Of course I remember you!

Thanks for coming by...No, of course not, no hard feelings whatsoever!

I actually kinda like the way you think: Off the rocker in some ways, but unrelenting...

Haha...It's ok...

Squibbling and squabbling are two good ways to start a friendship...The people I bicker with almost always end up as my good friends...

Maybe cos when you bicker, it shows (besides being petty! Keke) that there's something going on in the mind...As in, we're making each other think! And I like thinkers...

Not boring lor...

Ah...You think I'm innocent *ahem* just because I dowan to wear fishnets and leather huh?

Muahaha...How wrong you are!

But here's to becoming friends (at least we can try!)!

Oh, aiy, give lar blog URL...

Daphne Ling said...

Oh, by the way, Steve O',

Yes, I am a Baha'i. I've vaguely heard the name Chinniah before (cos not many right?), but I can't say I know them =)

And as for the Lotus Temple, I was a volunteer there for 5 weeks! Lovely indeed...

When did you go?

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Jimi,
Khabar baik Jimi...Jimi macam mana?
Harap baik juga ya?
Yea lar, saya pun tak faham all this fishnet punya issue...Leather in some cases, ok rasanya...Tak ke gatal jaring-ikan tu? Kekeke...

winniethepooh said...

As long as you're happy with your own choice, doesnt matter what others say.

I seldom go clubbing too, always the same thing, people smoking, loud music, drinking...what's new in there anyway ;P

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Winnie,

Yep, I'm happy with my choice! You're right: It doesn't matter what others say =)

Anonymous said...

One things for sure, I would rather slice my tongue out than to go clubbing with someone wearing fishnet and leather...so good on you Daphne.