Friday, 27 July 2007

PMS Boiling Over = Patience vs Anger...





Most people who know me well generally agree on one thing: I am a very patient person, but when I lose my temper, I really, really lose it...



My mom calls me the 'quiet dog whose bite will kill' (it sounds better in Hokkien!), because when I lose my temper, it's very ugly...

One good thing? My tempers don't last though...



Lately though, I feel as if my patience is ebbing away...I get annoyed by the slightest thing; I can get all mad if someone so much as says something ridiculous; I become really pissed if people make me wait a little more than 10 minutes...

My friends say it's years of PMS boiling over, and they are all avalanching now...

Is it true? I really don't know...

I hope it doesn't stay long though...I hate getting angry...




I am a pretty patient person by nature, maybe because I don't like to pick a fight...I guess it's also this whole Malaysian thingy where you "jaga hati orang", especially if they are older than you...




As to what will cause me to lose my temper, it varies...

Some things I can keep my cool for a very, very long time; others, not an iota...

If you cut my line in the cashier for example, you will get an earful as I will not stand for it...






I had a *Ahem* 'showdown' the other day in the supermarket...

There I was standing in line for over half an hour because the line was very long...



And when it finally became my turn, this well-dressed (in tie and long sleeves) young man came right in front of me, and proceeded to unload his basket of 13 things (Yes, I counted!)!

And here I was, holding a bag of pens to be paid...One bag...



At first I kept my cool...And then what should happen but the cashier accepted his items without so much as giving me a look...And it wasn't that she wasn't aware of what was going on, because she had already accepted my member card!



I lost it...



I blew my top at him, not caring who was looking...

It wasn't that he didn't know where the line starts-if there are two people, and you got confused which end was the right one, I can understand-but here I was with 8 people behind me!




He was over a head taller than me, and he must have thought that gave him reason to bully me, what with all the people behind me being old makciks and pakciks...

If he had been in a hurry, all he had to do was ask to go first, and under normal circumstances, I would have have said ok (Depends on how long the queue behind me is...Not fair to them right?)...

I'm also the kind of person who if I have a whole basket-full of things (like groceries) and the person behind me has only a few, I usually let them go first...Friendly tips from mum and dad =)



All in all, I ended up standing there for about 20 minutes more, but I was not going to let him get away with paying first...Everyone behind me was also dying to pay, but nobody said a word to keep me quiet or to tell me that my fuss would make them later...



In fact, the makcik behind me said, loud enough for all to hear: "Ah, orang muda sekarang, tak tahu berbaris. Mereka tak ajar ke kat sekolah?"

To which her friend replied: "Ada. Adik depan ni kan sedang marah dia?"

Then some pakcik quipped: "Pakai je cantik-cantik, tapi otak takda. Tak nampak ke ada line?"



I was going to giggle! but was waay too angry...It looked as if everyone was willing to wait just to make sure there was justice...

He ended up walking away without getting to pay first...After I demanded to see the manager to file a complain about unethical staff...

It was a simple matter of someone cutting my queue, but it was enough to make me lose it...



But other things, I can be the most patient person on earth...

Like feeding my dear Chee Keong...



I never really realised how long it took him to eat, until one day, one young doctor walked up to me with this big grin on his face, flashed his handphone, and said: "Wah...Damn patient la you. I've been timing how long he eats. Exactly (read off his handphone) 1 hour, 49 minutes and 35 seconds, and you didn't get angry once!"


Ok to be fair, Chee Keong was sick at that time, and only learning to eat, so it took very, very
long...Usually, it takes about 30-45 minutes...


Sigh...I wanna be patient again...

Boohoo...


I think I need a massage...=)


31 comments:

winniethepooh said...

I seldom lose my patience too, however, when I'm angry, I'm like a "volcano erupting" or my face will be as black as "justice Bao" as my friends will say hehehe

In your case of that guy cutting in ur line, if me, i'll not have waited, once he's infront of me, i'll hv say, "excuse me, the q is behind" you are still 'patience' huh hehehe

Good on u for always being patience with the ones who needs u :)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Winnie,

Actually, I thought it was only fair to let the cashier say something first...Anyway, she was already holding my member card thingy...

But she had the cheek to take his things! She got an earful too, needless to say...

Sharm said...

Congratulation , you won the WUBA , thier was a votes for you and we are very happy for chosing you in the honored award list of the WUB ( World United Bloggers ), recieve the award at this link

The Award Link

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Sharm,
Thanks for the honour!
Luckily I was still logged-on, otherwise, it'd be another few days before I can load the page...It's done...I've already put up the HTML tag! Thanks =)

J.T. said...

Congratulations Daphne!

You deserve it. :) *hugs*

Pi Bani said...

Daph,
In my comment to your previous posting, I was imagining you in leather and fishnet stockings. Now I'm imagining the same girl turning into incredible hulk! Habis koyak the leather and fishnet stockings lah!!

Anyway, congrats. Patient or angry, you deserve the award.

Anonymous said...

I will give you a massage. It is up to you whether you want to wear the fish nets and leather or not. Ifs up to me....................the less the better!!!!!!!!!!!!!

-horny guy-

Daphne Ling said...

Hey JT,

You got it too, didn't you? ;)
Congrats too then! *Hugs back*

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Pi,

Aiyo...Your imagination very the dahsyat case lar...Me as The Incredible Hulk? Haha...Very possible...But my face goes black when I'm angry, not green!

Kekekekeke...

Daphne Ling said...

Now, now, Horny Guy aka Anon 9.39, there are underage kids reading this blog =)

Jim said...

CONGRATULATIONS Daphne

if u only knew what LING and LINGAM means in my country (India)
hehehehe

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Jim,

Thanks!

I've been to India (Delhi, Agra), but I don't know what 'Ling' and 'Lingam' mean...

So, what does it mean?

Hehe...Curious lar...

Unless you meant it in context with the Kama Sutra ;)...

Anonymous said...

Daphne,
I'm a doctor and here's some friendly advice. If you're feelign that you're suddenly losing your temper more and finding it hard to control when you're usually a patient one, it is possible there is some kind of hormonal imbalance. Or perhaps you are just tired out. A massage is a good idea to relax. Take care.
Dr LYT

PrincessJournals said...
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PrincessJournals said...

oh that guy AND the cashier had it coming. good for u girl! *clap-clap*
congrats on the winning!

jimi said...

Sebagai seorang murid (ask any pupil in school), memang diajar dan dididik supaya " berbaris".

Sebagai seorang Malaysia, kita selalu dilabel

" Minda kelas ketiga, infrastruktur kelas pertama "

zorro said...

I like feisty friends in my corner.Have a stress-free weekend.

zorro said...

Daph...would the coveted WUB Award be a welcomed therapeutic massage?CONGRATULATIONS.

J.T. said...

Hey Daphne,

I did not get the award ...
I voted for you. :) (see the results at WUB blog).
By the way, WUB members (I'm one) do not get this award. They give it away.

Anyway ... patience. Ah yes, I have that for the needy people but for the ones that are clearly able, they get a sharp comment from me.

The problem is with those people who cut lines without asking, they are thick-skinned. Tell them off and they pretend not to hear.
And that cashier. She should have said something. It's good you gave her a earful. I would have too.

Congratulations again. :)

Mcfizley said...

Haha!! it's time u get angry pretty girl!! If ur alwyas nice, which u r, ppl will take advantage!! Then u bcom stresss!! The 2 idiots at counter deserve it!! Next time you bite them!! Haha!!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon @ Dr LYT,
Thanks for the advice...Will check it out if things get worse k? I don't wanna look like some hponchodriac! ;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi PrincessJournals,

Haha! He had it coming allright! She (cashier) and he (customer) didn't realise this shorty here has big problems with people cutting queue, whether at the cashier, restroom, toll etc...One of the things that really can get me fuming is people cutting queues...

*Bow Bow*

Rita Ho said...

Hi Daphne ... I've been zapped here, thanks to PrincessJournals. Adding my own congratulations to your award. I'm a new and sometime only blogger, so a bit blurr about what's happening but will go read about your achievements.

As for standing up at the counter line, good for you and clearly an anger over patience situation. It reminded me of an incident at Jaya Jusco where a friend faced the same BS courtesy of a cashier who knew the customer cutting queue. Said friend patiently waited her turn, let the cashier ring up her bill, refused to pay and demanded to see manager. She stood her grounds and walked off after complaining. Sometimes we need to play a role in educating others. I am glad you did. :)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Jimi,

"Minda kelas ketiga, infrastruktur kelas pertama"

Malangnya, benar pula 'pepatah' di atas. Murid-murid sekolah pun tahu berbaris...Tapi dah jadi orang berpelajaran, lupa pula kesemuanya...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Uncle Zorro,

Haha...No...I want an actual massage (with essential oils) to get rid of all the kinks in my shoulders (I wouldn't mind the Makcik Urut too!)...

Am too stressed up for my own good and for the safety of the people around me...;)

Wait, once my exams are over, I'm going to go for a nice long massage and facial! Oh, I'm sooo looking forward to it!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi JT,

Aiya...I didn't see the top-heading! I thought all the names were *Ahem* 'winners' of different countries *Smacks head*...

About the think-skinned people, yup! They just ignore you...He thought he could bully me cos I was smaller than him (and younger!), I suppose...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi McFizley,

If I bite them, my brace will break! Muahaha...Anyway, it's not my style to bite people...I merely growl and snarl, and if things become bad, use my claws...;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Rita Ho,

Thanks for zapping here! Anyway, regarding the "will go read about your achievements", there is nothing to read lar!

Although I gotta agree with you about "educating others"...

Most of the time, I am merely making my own personal stand though...

But with your friend, the guy/girl who cut queue 'got away'...It was only the cashier who kena! I wasn't going to let the tall-guy-who-cut-my-queue walk away, with a smug look that he managed to bully a whole line into letting him pay!

*Snarl*

eduardo waghorn said...

I think patience is a very important quality...it is wise and even healthy delevlope it...
But of course it is not easy...specially into this materialistic and egoistic society...
A hug to you.
Is the baby of the pic your child?:)
I have linked you, hope you dont mind:)

eduardo waghorn said...

Congratulations for the Award too:)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Eduardo Waghorn,

Thanks for linking me! I checked out your blog as promised, but the translator doesn't work (keeps hanging) and I can't understand your posts! Is there any other way to read it?

And no, the baby in the pic is not mine...He was a child who was abandoned in the hospital, and I volunteered as his foster mother for 6 months ;)

I'm still childless, and indeed too young lar...But I sure hope to be a real mummy one day, God willing...

And If the right guy comes along ;)