Monday, 22 October 2007

The Whining Girl with The Lethal Arm...




That's me when I am angry!



Ok…I usually share stories about children who melt my heart, who make me feel warm all over, who make me want to turn into someone who wants to give all the kisses and hugs in the world, and who make me feel like skipping and smiling and hugging everyone I meet…


Today, I shall do an un-Daphne thingy, and share with you the story of a girl I wanted to tie to the chair, put a tape over her mouth and tell her to can it…




Once, I was in the Pediatric Rehab, with a little newborn baby who had Congenital Talipes Equinovarus (CTEV)…CTEV is also known as the common ClubFoot

Haha, I just like rolling the CTV words off my tongue (although the condition itself is no laughing matter, and can result in a lot of pain)…



Anyway, I was using a tiny paint brush and stroking the infant’s heel cord (Achilles Tendon), and at the same time, explaining to the young mother (she was I think, about 23) what I was doing and why…




Behind me was an 11 year old girl, who had broken her arm (above the elbow) previously…She claims she can’t straighten her arm as it hurts, but the doctors and physiotherapists have, after observation, said that she is just afraid of straightening her arm. They have given her various exercises which forces her to straighten her arm (like throwing darts), and they have seen (me too!) that when she gets absorbed with the game, her arm automatically ‘loosen’, and it will become straightened…





To humour her anyway, they allow her to continue physiotherapy, and keep letting her play with darts, ball throwing etc, and hope that she will one day outgrow the ‘Sakit’ syndrome…



When she initially entered the rehab room, Pn Yasmin, the physiotherapist, gave me a set of darts and told me to take turns with *Atikah...So I did...






Unfortunately, Atikah decided it was no fun aiming the darts (kid's version) at the board, and instead, aimed the darts at me, and Pn Yasmin, if she happen to be near...And when she hit someone (me lar!), she would laugh...




Anyway, after a lot of "Jangan lempar kat orang", Pn Yasmin gave up telling her and put her for the second part of her treatment. So now Atikah sat on the bed, undergoing heat treatment…

This electrically-powered warm ‘bag’ was being placed on her arm in various positions for about half an hour at a go (could be 45 minutes, I am not sure) to help her arm be ‘not so sakit’…


And she was whining…





I mean, really whining




The entire time she was there, she whined, something like this:-

Atikah: "Taaak naaak laaah…Saaakiiit….Maaak, sakkiiiit, borrrring laar….Baaalliiik, naak balliik…Borrrriinngg"...


Now keep repeating those lines, over and over for half an hour, with variations in between like "Taaaak suuukaaa”…





I am not exaggerating…She dragged all her words…




And her mother and father, and younger 9 year old sister, were all there, and the parents never told her off. The younger sister, was busy amusing herself with the other equipment.

I was already very annoyed by her whining. How not to be, you tell me? Pn Yasmin kept throwing a glance at me that said only too well “I want to tape her mouth”, but as the sweet person she is, she kept her cool and kept saying, in a very gentle voice: “Atikah, sekejap aje lagi. Kalau tak sabar, macam mana nak sembuh?



Meanwhile, I ignored her…


And then, Atikah started throwing things (with her good arm)…First, she threw the pillow…Then she threw the blanket…


I ignored her…


And then, she threw a truck…A huge, Fisher Price truck, complete with excavator…







The truck looks something like this...This is the closest picture I could find to it...





Now, I was on the floor, on the Airex mat, with a 3 week-old baby in my lap, my back to Atikah.




All of a sudden, what felt like rubber wheels with something metallic attached to it, whack me on the side of the head, just at my ear. I felt my vision go ‘Zip!’ for a moment…

I turned and glared at Atikah, and there on the floor was the toy truck lying on the floor.



And there was the girl still whining away…You know what was worse, her parents saw her throwing the truck, they saw it hitting me, and they said nothing!



Pn Yasmin lost it, finally…

She said: “Atikah. Cepat minta maaf. Apa ni, baling barang kat orang. Cepat minta maaf, kalau tidak, Atikah jangan masuk bilik ini lagi!





Guess what? She didn’t

And guess what again? Neither did her parents…




Normally parents would have done two things, almost instinctively, although maybe not in this order…They would have:-





1) Apologised profusely on behalf of the child, and/or
2) Scream at the child, or reprimand him/her harshly, and force the child to apologise…




Most parents would be too embarrassed that the child was acting so terribly…



This two, on the other hand, merely said: "Jangan buat macam itu, Atikah"…After Pn Yasmin gave them a piece of her mind.




I threw the parents the most evil glare I could muster. I think what came out was a girl with slit eyes, trying to blow steam out of her nostrils...;)

I swear I was on the verge of yanking Atikah by the arm, and telling her to shut up or leave…





Ironical as it sounds, much of my anger stemmed from a sense of relief. I only realized later I was shaking from head to toe, thinking about what would have happened if the truck had missed me…


I mean, there I was, with a baby (a 3 week old one!) in my arms. What if the truck had smashed into the child? The truck is a big one (we usually encourage toddlers who have ‘movement problems’ to push them as part of therapy, so it has to be big to challenge them), and if I were to put the baby into a sitting position, the truck would be bigger than her!



I shudder to think what would have happened if the truck had smashed into the child instead of me? All I got was a bruised head (and perhaps, ego) but the child could have died!



Good Lord…




Finally, she left, and Pn Yasmin and I looked at each other and said “Ergh!”…


Pn Yasmin said: 'That girl is going to grow up into such a spoilt brat who will give a lot of trouble!'


I said: "Very good. Serve the parents right"…


We both laughed…


Here is where everyone goes: Muahahaha (Slit eyes a.k.a Mata sepet and steaming nostrils optional)...



*Note: Name has been changed...

27 comments:

PrincessJournals said...

nasib baik tak kena baby tu. i guess the parents never heard of the saying, melentur buluh biar dari rebung?

david santos said...

Hello, Daphne!
The children are the biggest virtue of the nature.
I am thankful for liking to you children, congratulations

Until always

Pi Bani said...

Spoilt brat! I think she purposely wanted to remain "saaakiiiit" because whenever sakit she could simply ask for anything from her parents.

tokasid said...

Dear Daphne:

Now, there are lots of parents like Atikah's out there.

I have seen, met and became friends with some of them.
I have lots of kids(5-12 years old) who will touch everything on my table and play with my stetoscope or my sphygmomanometer or my calling bell or my tongue depressor. And most of the time the parents will say: " Adiikk...jangan la kacau barang doktor tu".
Of course the child will ignore and will start to drop this and that from my table. And the parents will go like this: " adik...jangan ye sayang...nanti mama tak beli aiskrim kat adik tau...", to which again the child will continue to torture me. Finallay I would be upset and say something like this: " Baik jgn kacau barang doktor! Kalau tak doktor sunatkan sekarang jugak!". or " Kalau buat lagi, doktor inject bontot awak , nak?".

And the parents will go like this after the consultation: :"Sorry ye doc, budak-budak ni tak mau dengar cakap sangat..".

I do not mind if they do not appololise to me, but the statement made showed that they do not know how to control or teach their children about civic behaviour.

Once , at home we had a family friend with his notorious son and daughters pay us a visit. Actually he came for some bizniz with me. Well, now his son is so hyperactive that each visit will result in something in the living room or dining room or anything in the display cupboard to be 'cacat'. Same thing that day. He was pushing this and that and chasing after all our cats picking up whatever is on the tables and dropping in if h\it doesn't fancy him. And suddenly he pushed the wooden screen my wife loved so dearly. The top portion with all the kerawang carving just broke off from the main frame!! Me and wifey were stunned. So were my friend and his wife. But that boy just couldn't give a hoot about it and continue with his destructive biznes.
( They took they broken piece and have it repaired by a kayu jati restorer, I think).
And guess what the parent said: " Aiman....jangan macam tu. Kan dah rosak barang aunty ni.." , with such melodious voice!

To me , a child became spoilt because the parents are fools and over protective. Sometimes, a child needs the cane to toe the line.

As for Atikah, I think the parents should be refered to the psychiatrist( after all Tg Rambutan is not that far from Ipoh kan)

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

Hihi…she actually uttered the word ‘borrrriiinnggg’? what a kid. why didn’t anyone surprise by her behaviour? I say her parents are solely to be blamed. I mean, what kind of person are they? Its good that the good Dr told her off, right under her parents’ nose.

* that toy truck certainly looks big.

Rita Ho said...

I feel sorry for the girl. She obviously needs to be disciplined and the parents either don't know how or don't care enough to. Sad. Hopefully, she'll grow out of the spoiled behaviour eventually learning from other teenagers.

Meanwhile, you stay safe, Daph!

2Jins said...

Why oh why did u Have to put the picture of that truck? It's so nice...where did the hospital get it from? It's not that easy to find it here! HA HA HA!!!

Ah.. well, too bad for poor Atikah(?) la. There are quite a number of rude humans around... and I guess, it's all to do with insecurity, self-loathing, etc etc etc...

that makes the world go round..ha ha ha...!!!

Personally, I wud hv given it BIG TIME to my kids. PAIN YOU KNOW!

the Razzler said...

Dear Daphne..

Perhaps the parents need a good spanking instead!!

I have a friend whose son is such a spoil brat that they are `shy' to bring him out to social gatherings. He would spit out food or throw them all over the table.

But when the child is alone with the parents, he's quite okay pulak.

That's the 1st time I've seen such a child. I got a lift from the parents from Langkawi then. Guess they felt the need to fill me in, so that I do not get a rude shock.

I guess it's the result of parents over-dotting on their only child.

I am so glad that the little child whom you are holding is not hurt. Hope you are okay though.. :) :)

kl_gal said...

Sigh..my pet peeve..misbehaving children. You handled it well, though..kalau I..mmm..dont know what I would have done ( certainly know what I'd have wanted to do !:))
My used to be close friend in KL has a brat too..we couldnt even go to a restaurant..he'd behave like a zoo specimen..kena taupau food + bring home to eat.

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Everyone,
Sorry, took me so long to reply. Both my mum and brother just got discharged from the hospital for AGE (Acute Gastroenteritis), and my grandma too is down...



Hi Princess,

I guess they never heard of that phrase before...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mr Santos,

Yes, they are, indeed Sir! Which is why they need discipline when they are young, so that they will grow up well! Thanks =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Pi,

I really don't know about that...But I think she memang biasa in getting her way one...But I blame the parents actually, and not the child...

But in a way, she's 11...School and friends should have taught her something about behaving!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Doc,

Wah...Kids who tak takut to kacau a doctor's things! It's good they're not afraid of the doctor, but to play with the things is too much lar...

As for your kayu jati punya furniture, is quite a pity, isn't it? And very rude, isn't it?

I don't think Atikah's parents are mad...They're just too indulgent...If the child wants to wreck havoc at their own home, fine...But don't do it at other people's expense!

Memang I wanted to jentik her...

3 year old does that whining, I will actually feel sorry for the child that she doesn't understand why she is in the hospital...

5 year old, still I will feel sorry...

7 year old, still I can understand...

Even 9 year old, I still can faham...Maybe late bloomer...;)

But 11 years?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kerp,

Yep, she uttered the words ‘borrrriiinnggg’...Over and over and over and over again...And yes, the toy trucks are big! Tapi apa nak buat? Hazards of the job...;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Aunty Rita,

Yes, in a way, I do feel sorry for Atikah...But, I do feel she should have learnt something from school...11 years old leh! I too hope she will one day learn that acting out won't help her...=)

I'll try and keep safe!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi 2Jins,

I was actually surprised they said not a word, really...Some parents don't tell their children off when they are being rude, but I think there has to be a limit...

I was in a mamak stall the other day, and there was this bunch of kids who were misbehaving, and...Oh wait...

Another post for that!

Muahaha...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi The Razzler,

Parents needing spanking huh?

I would have settled for the parents telling the child to behave! I am not asking for them to hit her...After all, she is already 11 years old!

I figure she can understand some level of reasoning at that age, right? But oh well...The levels to which some parents will pamper and spoil their child, is just amazing lar sometimes...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi KL_Gal,

Zoo animals huh? Actually, having volunteered in the zoo and animal shelters before, some animals are actually very well behaved, and very obedient! Seriously...

Ironic, huh?

Rita Ho said...

Daph ... I'm sorry to hear about your mom and brother but glad that they are now OK and hope that your grandma is recovering well. What instigated their stomach flu? It is quite common among children here, and usually caused by bacterial infection.

MJ said...

When I was working in retail sales, there were parents with hyper active children who would flip folded clothes, making a disarray of the display, pushing tall (and heavy) stands, taking stationeries to pay.

I've seen parents putting their children and babies onto the table with clothes. They even played with the children with the children step dancing on the table!

I would NEVER allow such thing to happen to my counter. I would immediately go to the parents and children to tell them to stop politely. If they don't I would glare at them and physically stop them from playing with the display. Some kids have a lot of pent up anger and I've seen kids punching on mannequins. Their parents just laughed. Some parents are really polite and apologetic but they just couldn't control their children.

Once in awhile, some parents would think that since they are the customers (and they haven't even bought anything from me), they are the king. I didn't care. You can go give your shit business elsewhere.

winniethepooh said...

hope ur granny, mom and bro are feeling better..u take good care okie

hmm..its frustrating how some parents do not disciple the kids. Worst when they wont say or do anything at all even when their kids hurt someone else! sigh..

InnocentWitch said...

Hey Daphne,
i'm working in Ipoh hospital too,,,as physiotherapist..... you are physiotherapist as well??? tell me which brats is tat, i'll give them a nice time as well...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Aunty Rita,

I am not very sure what they had...Either bacterial or viral, kua...

But it seems to be going around, this thingy...Half the patients in the ward had the same problem!

Thanks for checking up on them =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi MJ,

Wah...Ganasnya ;)

But it is true that parents should tell the children off when they misbehave in public...

Disturbing things that are potentially breakable (punching mannequins!?!) and making a mess of people's work memang is a No-No, in my world, at least...

If don't learn to respect other people's property from young, is it any surprise when vandalism happens in teenagehood?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Winnie,

Yeap, they're all tons better...Thanks!

It's actually amazing how some parents can be soooo tolerant of their children!

I tengok pun I dah geram, what more having to live with them?!?!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi InnocentWitch,

Nope, I am not a Physiotherapist, but yes, that was in Ipoh Hospital...Me volunteer aje...

As for the girl, I doubt she's there anymore...Her arm ok already what! I'll check when I have my holidays...=)

Anonymous said...

Such kids are a common sight everywhere. Yes, it is not the kid's fault but the parents. There are many reasons given to justify why parents refuse to discipline or educate their children properly. Amongst them are parent's feel guilty because they spend most of their time doing what they like to do... Parents just cannot hack it as parents because it is tedious, tiring, testing and most importantly, a very boring job... macam macam pun ada la..

But I personally feels that it has to do with a lot of western upbringing culture that most parents embrace wholeheartedly. Physical punishment is a CRIME, only emphasize the positive aspect and dont even mention anything negative. NO is considered negative. Sigh... maciam ni la.. the kid grow up full of himself or herself... notoriously full of crap la. Yes, I have seen a 24 years old girl who made serious mistake that will cause the company serious lawsuit and when boss repreminded her, she didnt come back to work again. Instead, her dad came to announce her resignation and the fact that she is in shock because she has never been spoken to in such a harsh tone and called Stupid. Sigh.. that is now pampered and spoilt children are today...

The next batch of kids to come will be worse. It is very sad indeed.

Pearls