Thursday, 3 April 2008

Patience Needed: Will Beg, Borrow or Steal...



Patience...That's one thing you need a lot of when you live with other people, and when you share a room with people you don't know at all...


I have a roomate, and at times, I want to cekik her nicely...


When I told my mum I was getting a new roomate after my old one left, she was like "Aiya. I hope you get a nice one"...


I was thinking the exact same thing...And I told my mum I would hold my tongue...


But 2 hours after she moved in, I had to open this mouth that I said I would keep shut...


You know why? She wears the same bedroom slippers to the common bathroom/toilet, bathes in it etc, and then walks the corridor in it, and into the bedroom, in the same slippers...

Sorry, but I just couldn't keep quite knowing she was wearing the same slippers into the room when I share the same floor! Who knows what fungi and moss she could be bringing in? It does not help that my room is aircond, which makes it excellent ground to harvest God-knows-what (it's cool)...And my friends and I sometimes sit on the floor...



And ever since she moved in, I've been having to exercise a lot of self-control when it comes to this mouth...


First of all, after we got to know each other, she asked me if I had a boyfriend, to which I said no...But she does not believe me...


So everytime I go online to chat, or to do whatever, and I happen to burst out laughing in front of the computer, she would immediately drop everything and come and sit behind me to see what I am up to, saying: "Oh chatting dengan cowok (boy) yeah?"

Yeah, she reads behind my shoulder, hoping to 'catch' me in the act of communicating with my 'boyfriend'...



Sorry, but if there's one thing that ticks me off, it's people reading over my shoulder without any invited-reason...She reads over my shoulder when I'm doing my assignment, when I'm writing my blog, when I'm chatting! It came to a point that I would purposely switch screens, open a halfway loading page and stare at the screen, hoping she would get the hint that I would not continue what I was doing until she left...


And when we are doing our work side-by-side and she is chatting with her boyfriend (he's in Indonesia), she would interrupt me every few minutes so that she can show me how her boyfriend says 'I Love You'...


And then, she has this habit of refusing to clean the room (that's the downside when your roomie comes from a super-rich family who has quite a few maids)...My old roomie and I had an unspoken agreement that we would clean the room, depending on who is more free...Like if I happened to be the 'freer' one, I would sweep and she would do it the next round...But we swept our room around twice a day, on average...


This roomate, doesn't sweep...I memang pantang seeing hair on the floor, so I am always picking up all my hair (and my old roomie used to do it too)...Now, not only do I have to pick up my hair, I have to pick up hers too! The aircond is directed at my side of the room, so all the hair is forever pooling at my area! In case anyone is planning on asking, I know it's her hair cos it's about twice the length of mine, and hers is ironed-straight =)



If she won't even sweep, needless to say, she has never mopped lar...


It has come to a point that I have given up on sweeping her side of the room, or even mopping. I have been doing it for about 4 months, and I have decided I will be selfish and only clean my side, cos I refuse to be her maid...

In fact, when I came home from the hospital (was away for a week), my mother who was helping me carry my stuff in nearly fainted...There were dirty pots, cups, pans and plates all over the room, all stacked up...The food had dried in the pot, and even crusted!



Ok, so I am not a clean-freak, and I live in my own cluttered-ness (organised clutter, they call it =)), but I'm not that dirty...


Haih...


And she has this horrible habit of slamming the door all times of the day, even when I am asleep, that it jolts me up and I just can't drift off again...And until today, I wonder why I bother to take my time to pull the door when she is asleep so I won't wake her...


You really need a lot of patience when sharing a room (unless you want to get into a catfight), and I am seriously running out of it...



Anybody want to sell, loan, lend, steal for, or buy me some? Please?


43 comments:

whre4arthou said...

Hug hug nai nai..

I don't think I have any patience on 'loan'.. you know that I am probably worse off than you.. :P

But I can offer you a hug :)

I think it's quite common isn't it? These living together with other people problems..

Don't worry.. you're not abnormal.. I lash out at one of our housemates everyday too.. although of course I really really really DO try to control myself..

I can't stand dirty floors either.. I can't stand people walking across the corridor with their going out slippers.. Can't they just bring it outside before stepping on them!?!?!?!

And yes.. he slams doors as well.. and cupboard doors.. and cups and everything he gets his hands on.. and he is anal about people touching his computer but he leaves it all over the place.. ARGHGGHGHGHG..

See.. talk about him also I feel like cekiking him already..

On the bright side at least you're not living with 4 boys.. (although the other 3 boys in the house are actually quite clean)

;)

Pi Bani said...

This room-mate of yours, she got patience or not? If got, borrow from her leh...

Akmal said...

Daphne,
Uih boleh tahan! So sorry to hear that you're living with people with so much attitude. A princess of some super rich man eh? Busy body one also hahaha. Eh, she knows your blog, no?
I have some in my room too. They are reckless, but considerate. More often, they are fun to be with rather than a nuisance. Me being a nuisance, well, perhaps. Hahaha.
Have a nice day :)

Salt & Turmeric said...

Daphne, uv got to tell her off or else u yg jadi gila. im rather lazy but i hate dirty kitchen and bathroom esp kitchen. thts where u prepare ur food. fr ur story, it doesn sound like shes gonna anything abt it.

maybe u can tell her tht if she doesn wanna clean it herself, hire a cleaning lady. she is after all supposedly rich right?

being patient is 1 thing but letting other ppl pijak kepala is a totally diff thing u kno? while ur at it, dont forget to remind her not to read ur private conversation. ;)

farina

Anonymous said...

well just tell Irene and transfer room however since air-con room is limited so...u hav to kill her
hitn:use the dog.

Nightwing said...

Wow..Sorry to hear u got this kind of room mate.

Take it easy and counting the days u won;t be room mate with her.

And if tak tahan lagi, have a meeting with her (make sure u got witness) and tell her the problems.

Beebs said...

u remember what sir always say about you in class? he always says you are too too too tolerant of everything.

mott said...

HAHAHAH..I just blogged about this! In my other blog la... had to have a password somemore..coz it's a sensitive issue (it being family and all).. ha ha ha!! This is memang puteri!!!!!

But since she's NOT your relative, I really think you should put some rules down and let her know, that in the REAL world...we ALL clean up.

After all, cleaning toilets are never beneath us. ;-) ( I so love that!)

Jo-D said...

Daph, I cannot believe you actualy swept and mop the whole room for so many months before deciding you will only do your side. If it had been me, this girl would be in hell. I would have given her a nice scolding for refusing to do her part. Time you start screaming your head of.

MarinaM said...

My daughter's not rooming with you, is she? Cos sounds like her :-( No, wait, she's in Australia...haiyo, I totally sympathise, Daph dear.

We missed you today at the lunch at the Curve. Raden Galoh and Jacqui were really looking forward to meeting you. Jacqui said she might go to Penang so she might get in touch.

Listen, patience has its virtues but doesn't get you clean floors. I think you should say something to your roomie but nicely. People like that must learn to be considerate of others. Good luck!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Aemi,

Haha! Yeah, I guess it is quite common that when you live with other people (especially of different countries)...

As for living with boys, that can be harder in some ways...But girls have their own unique problems also (like the drama!)...Hehe...

Oh well, just a little bit more, and it will be all done with! =)

*Hugs* back...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Pi,

She got patience ar? More like she's completely oblivious to everything...No sense of guilt...=(

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Akmal,

Yeah, you said it just right...Princess of a rich man...

She has 2 maids and 3 nannies (one each for each niece/nephew) in her home or something...

As for my blog, she doesn't know lar...You thought I was using the blog to pass her a message, eh?

No ler...

Anyway, great to know you've got great roomies...=)

jun said...

U are such a patience people!!! If it was me I sure kill her ady! Last time I also share a room with a roommate. When I sleep he wont switch off the light. That's ok with me as I can covered my eyes with pillow. But one thing that eventually tick me off, if went I was asleep he would just have his woofer blasting out loud.

At the end, I purposely let him know about my blog then I blogged about the matter it in. Lucky me, at the end he change. :)

I think u should just tell her straight into her face. If that still won't work, well I think you mind as well kill her better than u become crazy. LOL!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Farina,

Haha! Cleaning lady? Wahlau...That is one thing I never expected!

I have resorted to just be civil with her lar...If I tell her off, there's gonna be a cat-fight, and I hate to pick a fight...

Sometimes when I bengang giler about the state of the room (like when I come back from Ipoh after a few days), I will trust the broom into her hand and say "You Sweep, I'm gonna mop"...

It sounds like I'm ordering her (fair enough, I am), but oh well, we share the floor and we should share the load of cleaning it...

Haih...

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Anon 10.26,

Ah...And who are you? You must be from the hostel or at least from college, otherwise, you won't know Irene or the dogs!

So, spill...Who are you leh?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi NightWing,

I will only be here for a few more weeks only, if all goes well, so I have to tahan a while more only...

I'll take it that tahan-ing builds character...*Note to self*

After all, if she can't feel guilty seeing me mop and sweep and picking up her hair, I doubt telling her point-blank will make a difference...

Even the guards and cleaners have told her off before! No difference...=(

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Beebs,

Er, which Beebs is this? Heh...

And which sir are you talking about?

Er...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mott,

Looks like Ms Pushpa has found herself a new fan...You!

Yes, in the real world, we all clean up (unless you got plenty of money), and I guess she has to learn it the hard way...And I believe she will, one day...

How's the lil fella coming along? Still bawling his lungs out? As long as he's healthy, right? =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Jo-D,

Scary lar you dear...Garangnya...I would have bitten her, but I can't bite hard things...Nanti my brace break again, and my orthodontist will come after me! Again...=(

Keep cool, ok?

But yes, my limit has been reached, and I refuse to clean her side adi...That's my way of memberontak-ing...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Aunty Marina,

Yeah, I heard about the luncheon, but I had a horrible Stats test this morning, and sure couldn't make it down...

Anyway, my mum would think I've gone mad if I tell her I'm going down to KL to eat at Kayu (which has got an excellent 6-lot outlet here in Penang)...

Hehe...

As for your daughter, hmmmm...Haha...(All mothers say their kids are dirty! Ask mine! She'll happily trade stories with you...)

I guess my problem with telling her off is that well, I'm not her mum...

The cleaners who work in the hostel and the guards have all told her off before, and it doesn't work...Haih...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Jun,

Thanks for coming by and leaving a comment...

Hah...You actually hinted at your roomie to read your blog? Wahlau! That's bold...And painful (for him)!

*Shudder*

But to be fair, my roomie doesn't blast a woofer lar, and she is considerate about the lights...

I told her she can keep the lights on if she wants to continue doing her work, cos well, it's her room too, and it's not fair to throw her out because I feel like sleeping early on some days...

WP said...

Oh gosh, I sympathise... that is why I prefer not having a roommate...I have been quite lucky in the sense that I only had to share a room for 3 months, and my roommates were not too bad.

TripleJin said...

hey..

the lil fler is Ok. no complaints whatsoever..even if he is bawling his head off.

*grins*

mott/ u can chk his blog out.

rina said...

lol! daphne!
your blog is clean and clear and computer friendly a.k.a 'easy loading'!
no boisterous music and all of those thingamajing bling bling (if u know wat i mean) hahaha. substance over appearance! god bless i tell u...

and haha! omg, some people rite?
u dunno if its the parents whom didn't nurture their thoughts or its just them. but omg, u poor thing, of all the probability of getting a decent roomie, u end up with that one rite? lol. it sucks rite getting stuck with someone who take u absolutely for granted, feel so used. like u seriously don't mind picking up after them, but when they don't even bother to acknowledge or heck, help out a little, u just feel so used.

anyways, cool blog. way better than some rainbowlover's lol

Wai Wai said...

Daph, what can I say but bravo, you don't need any more patience, you've got tons of them. Some sayings sound like this, if you can't beat it, join it, but I would say run away from it!!! she sounds like a cockroach... but again keep your antibody high for the balance few weeks K? Are u finishing your studies soon? We should meet up before you finished your studies in Penang.....

david santos said...

Hello, Daphene!
I loved this post hand this blog. Have a nice day.


Please!
To avoid such a tragedy happening again, and for the salvation of our children, we are doing a worldwide campaign, displaying the image of NURIN JAZLIN JAZIMIN in blogs all over the world on 25th April 2008. Let's not forget NURIN JAZLIN.

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

eh, aiyahhh...why am i late really beats me. BUT, never too late to suggest you to spike her drink with a pill of viagra or 3. hey, it would be interesting to see how a woman to react on that litttle blue wonder. when else to try on a human-guinea pig right?

okok, seriously...you just gotta set your foot down and be selfish when the need arises. someone needs to be whacked right in the head la D. then only things will get movin'. so try it, whack her while she's fast asleep.

Anonymous said...

hey Daphne,

Do what i do. We used to have a maid, now we don't. So the place is always in a permanent mess. What'd I do? Just lower my standards and live with it... hahaha.

cheers,
Mus

wak masnoor said...

Haha, its such an amazing thing what patience IS and CAN DO for a person.

HAVING ONE, you'll be regarded as an angel.
LOSING ONE, you'll be the next Malaysian-werewolf, howling and ravaging onto anything you can put your claws into. (And not forgetting, the scratching itching things all over the body; werewolf before, remember)

Its hard to advertise PATIENCE what more in asking oneself to buy it, when stuff like that (the patience), needs air-conditioned cool type of room ambiances to keep it fresh and ready to use when needed, which unfortunately more than often, the only one available spot (room) left is the one with the HEATS coming from a pal sitting, stalking or lingering next to you.

Maybe Daphne, a course on facial expression would helps you. Hence, the next time shes around with her usual charm; a MIKE TYSON impression at the look on your face, would had her BEG, BORROW or STEAL for your FORGIVENESS.

Happy 'howling' girl.

Daphne Ling said...

Hi WP,

Ala, not everybody can be so lucky as to not have a roomie lar...

Anyway, if you get a good roomie, it can be quite fun also...My old roomie was pretty cool, so it wasn't too bad...

It's when you get a funny one when the problems set in...

But lucky you, you had good ones in those 3 months!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Mott,

Wah...Lil fella has got a blog already ah? Cool, I will check out his blog soon! God bless little, healthy lungs, even if they keep you up all night! =)

U.Lee said...

Hi Daphne, ha ha, I have patience for fishing, even if whole day no tarek, but this kind of stress?
Mati la!
You can't find x'cuse get another one? Watch out for ulcers, ha ha.
Stay easy Daphne. UL.

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Rina,

Haha! Who would have thought we both found the rainbow-thingy annoying? Oh well, I guess it must say we aren't being unfairly 'critical' cos we both didn't realise we were talking about the same thing!

How small this world is...=)

Oh well, glad you like reading the blog...Will see you round!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Elaine,

Haih...I have lotsa patience when it comes to some things, but other things, I have no patience at all (like people cutting queues! *Grrr*)...

I should be leaving Penang in a couple of weeks...It would be nice to meet up before I go!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mr Santos,

That's a great idea and effort...Unfortunately, I can't promise to upload a photo of her (because my wireless might not permit it)...

I will try (again, subject to wireless) to post about it!

Thanks for the tip =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kerp,

Oi! You think Viagra comes cheap ah? Last I heard, they cost RM 40 a pill, ok? And they're used for a lot of reasons, so don't get the wrong ideas!

But yeah, you're right...Whacking her on the head while she is asleep might be a whole lot easier, and more satisfying! Haha!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon @ Mus,

Haha...Can't beat her, so join her? Cannot lar...Will fall sick with so much rubbish everywhere...Hehe...

But it will be less stressful, in some ways...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Wak Masnoor,

Haha! Oh dear, that was funny...=)

I already have a garang expression lar...It does not help! I guess she is immune, cos she says her mum always gets on her case about everything...

As for turning into some werewolf thingy, I think the female-version of the Incredible Hulk is less itchy lar...

But thanks for coming by and for the funny comment!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Uncle Lee,

Wah...Don't lar talk about ulcers and all...After your mulut masin, then how ar me?

But yeah, I know what you mean about having patience for some stuff and zero-tolerance for some other stuff...

But oh well, the world doesn't always suit our taste...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Uncle Lee,

Wah...Don't lar talk about ulcers and all...After your mulut masin, then how ar me?

But yeah, I know what you mean about having patience for some stuff and zero-tolerance for some other stuff...

But oh well, the world doesn't always suit our taste...=)

zorro said...

Girl your Cross has finally arrived in the person of your new roomie. You can bear the cross stoically or start posting out the TEN COMMANDMENTS:
Thou shall not wear bathroom slippers into the room'
Thou shall collect thine own hair after brushing.
Thou shall not peer over shoulders.
Thou shall not start a bacteria culture in the room...try the lab.
Thou shall not kill my patience.
Thou shall not covet my privacy...
Aiya...you do the last 4 and lets see it.
Once done, post it on the inside of your door....or facing her bed.
One has to be cruel to keep the peace.

maskedfacies said...

God, we r having the same problem. guess what, i've been sweeping my room (which happened to be shared with this super lazy from not-so-rich gurl)for years...wait, to be exact, its 3 years. hahaha. theres a lot more to tell, but basically we just have the same problem. n about those computer things too! she keeps bugging me behind my back evrytime i was chatting or laughing in front of the laptop. she even sometimes crawled into my bed for Godsake. sgt la sakit hati! n when i try to switch the window, she would rather wait than go away. damn annoying kan? n trust me, i think she had been stalking me for more than 2 years. hahaha. wat a f***ing life i have.....