Thursday, 8 May 2008

Guess How Easy Is It To Lose Your Child???...



I have been back in Ipoh for about 2 weeks now, and since I got back, I've had a little more 'freedom', in the sense that I get to go out more often (yeah, normally with mum and dad)...


And I see quite some disturbing things while out...



I was in Tesco about a week ago, buying some groceries for mum when I chanced upon a trolley with a baby in it, and guess who was minding the child? His sister, who looked all of 4/5 years old...The cart was right in front of the cauliflowers, and the baby was crying...


I was in the midst of choosing some nice onions for my spaghetti when I heard this little girl trying to calm her brother down...



I turned around and asked her "Mama mana?"...

She pointed to the fish section...And there was mama, jostling with about another 10 people, for the freshest fish, while baby was screaming away...


I saw this little girl holding a bottle of half-drunk milk in her small hands, and it was obvious she had no idea what to do with it, so I took the milk bottle from her, and said "Kak dukung adik ya?"...

She nodded...



So I was there, feeding the baby, who was quite obviously hungry, and cold (you put the baby in front of the vegetable freezer with no blanket, what do you expect?)...




Anyway, baby finished his milk in a matter of minutes, and I put him back into the trolley, and went back to picking my onions, all the while watching the trolley out of the corner of my eye...I eve moved the trolley to the side so baby won't be freezing..


And I saw mama come back, so I left it as that...She didn't seem to notice her cart was about two metres away from where she left it...




The incident was completely forgotten until I was having coffee with Kerp the other day in Sunway Pyramid...A young mother comes in with her son (probably about 3), and proceeds to order her coffee and pastries...


Suddenly Kerp points behind me and says: "Hey, look"...


I turned around and oh dear, little boy is already outside and has gone on top of the stone-bannister overlooking the road (which has quite a drop on the other side), and beside him was a pot of plant, which didn't look all too stable...




So I got up and walked out and called the kid down, my hand outstretched...

Seriously, it isn't all that hard to get kids to follow you...All you have to do is give a simple command, and firmly...


He followed me, no fuss at all...




And we (Kerp and Me) handed him back to mum who did not realise her son was missing until I brought him back in...Thank God Kerpie was alert and saw the kid leaving...=)


Hmmm...



Guess how easy is it to lose your kid? Very easy...Children follow you, and I didn't even have a sweet to bribe them...



Now imagine if I was looking for a child to kidnap or hurt...


How easy would that be again?




Note: I've seen Caucasian and even Western-educated parents here in Malaysia (aiya, their crisp accent gives them away) who put a leash on their kids while in public areas...

These leashes are either around their child's wrist, or attached to their child's bags or clothes, and they actually do look darn cute! They come in the form of teddy bears (the leash is the 'tail'), lady bugs (the leash is the 'antenna') etc...I guess we should be taking a cue from them, no?


28 comments:

Nightwing said...

Good on you and Kerp for being alert.

When i go out, i am also on the alert if any child is alone. Some times parents can be careless.

It is so easy to lose a child.

Anonymous said...

Hi Dik,
Yep...agree with you. I came across such incident many times before, and even yesterday! When a child went missing...who is there to blame? Our society just never learn :(

ST

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

hi Nightwing,

actually all credits should be given to her. when i notified her about the lone kid, i did not expect she'd conront the boy. the boy's mom was seen too busy paying her coffee at the counter to mind about her own child.

i think its a typical case of carelessness, taking things for granted that past cases wont happen to us. this could be one factor why abductors can be more and more daring nowadays.

you and daphne are spot-on. regrettably, it is easy to lose a child.

Akmal said...

Hi Daph,
Carelessness, sometimes makes us pay it big. I hope all parents out there take necessary, proactive measurement to ensure safety of the children. And of course, if all citizen are like you, Kerp and Nightwing, we don't have to worry much. The idea of having all things in order around us, for now is too far a distance to achieve. But we have culprits lurking around the neighborhood, so watch out.

Pi Bani said...

Daph,
People don't seem to learn from other people's mistakes. Many still tend to think that bad things will not happen to them or their families. They tend to forget that sometimes, even when we're careful, our children can still get into trouble.

Dah kena batang hidung sendiri, then only want to regret...

Raden Galoh said...

Hi sis...
I think this is agood example about an attitude that some people think they won't 'kena' one...something not about them...something not having empathy when situation like that happens to someone else...

nasib baik ada someone like you and Kerp...nasib baik juga someone like you bukannya kidnap buadk tu...but...what if it's like that? will the coffee she bought be worthy?
*hugs*

Ydiana said...

Sad to say, most parents do take things for granted. I am not saying that I'm good, but the moment any of my children is out of sight, even when they're beside me, I will jump to find where they are. The thought of losing them is so heart stopping.
I also once come across a girl about 4 years of age came crying to me and ask where her mom was. I took her to a lady security guard to make the announcement. Like you said, luckily I am not on a lookout for children to be exported to Thailand to become child beggars, etc.
Please parents, don't let it be another Nurin or Nini...

straycat's strut said...

Daph, in all the incidents, did you ever wonder where were the fathers?

sharlydia said...

infact i'm one of those very careful mum where i always ensure my son is within my sight or reach when we are out...sometimes papa will say i'm paranoia, but what the heck, that's for the safety of my child!

and i really hate parents who dont appreciate the kids well...sad to say there are many out there!

mott said...

sigh...

Although I try my bestest to watch my kids like a hawk, I will admit, sometimes, they slip out without me knowing.

I need to put a leash on them!

Daphne Ling said...

Hey NightWing,

Hey, it was Kerp who realised the kid had left the building...As to how he managed to push such heavy doors, I can't figure out till today...

I think we can all make in difference in this...Watch out for kids who are lost or left alone...Doesn't take much, really...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak ST (Anon),

When a child goes missing, I hate it when they blame it on the child's 8/9 year old sibling who wasn't aware enough of the surroundings! Hey, it happened twice already...

How can a child be asked to be responsible? The child is short, lar, come on, how much can he/she see? Even adults can't be so attentive and aware...

You're right...Society never learns...Sad!

rina said...

amazing daphne! u actually took the baby and dukung it. i would never have the courage to do that.

good thing there are people like u and your friend around to help keep watch on these kids. if only more people were like you guys then probably it would be easier to foil the kidnapper's ill plans since they would know that people are aware of their intentions.

take charge rite, don't rely on someone else to do the bidding. (hint for the 'someone else'- govt)
Since doing so is just being complacent.

lionel teh said...

Hi Daphne...
so nice of you to dukung the kid and also save the boy together with your friend.
cheers!!

IBU said...

A good reminder to all parents out there.

And hey...yes, where were the fathers? Cisss....

Wai Wai said...

Daph, a good one, if we can't educate all mothers, at least we could keep an eye on the children near to us......

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Kerp,

It's everybody's responsibility, so credit is also everyone's! I am memang kuat menyibuk one when I see children alone, especially children alone near escalators, elevators and doors because it is so easy for a child to fall, or get trapped...

I think society has just become complacent that bad things don't happen, and in that complacency, we become careless...

Come to think of it, how on earth did that little boy push open the glass doors? They're pretty heavy, aren't they?

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Akmal,

Yeah, we do have culprits lurking around everywhere, and we can never be too careful...

But we often forget, and by the time we remember, it is often too late...

Again, I blame this on our 'jangan jaga tepi kain orang' mentality...We always feel that we should not mind other people's children or their business because we're afraid of being labled a 'penyibuk'...

Don't you agree?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Pi,

Don't sampai our children lar...Even we ourselves, careful, careful pun, boleh masuk longkang!

If wait until kena batang hidung sendiri, regret pun tak guna adi...It's too late...Like they said, 'no point crying over spilt milk', or 'kuah sudah tumpah ke nasi'...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Aunty Dalilah,

I never thought it would be so easy to kidnap a child, but seriously, senang jugak!

After all, he just followed me, not a single bit of fuss did he kick up! Let me hold hand samore!

He was a cute thing lar...And I'm sure the mum would not have been able to forgive herself if something had happen to her son...No amount of coffee will be worth it...

*Hugs*

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Ydiana,

There are moments when your heart literally drops, and I'm sure realising your child is not near you is one of them...

Don't say child man...If I discover my bag isn't near me also my heart will drop!

I like you, too, hope there are no more Nurin's or Nini's...What's the point of coming out and cursing and screaming when bad things happen? Too late...

Kudos for taking the girl to the security guards (nowadays must be careful with them too)! Together, we can all make a difference...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Straycat's Strut,

Hmmm...Good point...I never thought about it...Good point! Sad huh? Mother's always get blamed, and dad gets away scot-free...*Grrr*

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Sharlydia,

Aiyo, we'll make good friends...I'm paranoid too...

You should see me when I enter a car...Kalau itu pintu tak kunci, I'll be fidgeting away...

Paranoid giler...But better safe than sorry, right? Keep your son close! No regrets wan...

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Mott,

Yes, leash them! Better safe than sorry...I see in Western countries, people leash their kids what...

Malaysians made noise when they saw this saying people were treating their kids like dogs, but seriously, better to have them safe...

*Hugs* to you and your three boys...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Rina,

Haha! Everybody's baby is mine too...Hehe...I can't resist babies lar...

As for waiting for the government, firstly, they can't be expected to do everything...Secondly, our system has got a long way to go...

So yeah, it's up to ordinary people like you and me...=)

Hope everything is cool on your side...

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Lionel Teh,

It's no biggie...We all can do the same thing...Requires no mountain-effort actually...I'm sure you would have done the same!


Hi Ibu,

Yeah lor, now that Straycat's Strut brought it up, where are all the fathers? Ish...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Wai Wai,

Huh...Interesting way of looking at it, you...

Instead of trying to change others, we change our own ways huh?

Good one!

Bitta said...

I salute you Daphne and your friend kerp,for looking out for other people's kids. You're not a mom yet and you have that mother instinct, can't say for that mother at the martke tho... heran juga! so scary for their kids.


Eh that is so true... parents should never take things for granted whre their kids safety is concerned. I would never leave my kids unattended especially at public places. Some people said I am being paranoid but I don't care, to me it's better paranoid then sorry, yah.