Monday, 30 June 2008

Of an RM 3.50 Card, and a Newfound Friend...



Somewhere about 2 years ago, post STPM, I went to Kinta City to just window shop (and look for baby clothes for Chee Keong) and happen to pop into the food court for lunch...


And while I was paying for food, I realised that the cashier did not once look at me, even when I said 'Hello' to her. Being the busybody that I am, I was curious to know why she didn't look at me. It was only when she handed me my change that I realised the cashier had one 'funny looking' eye. It looked like it was made of glass (I could be very wrong), and the skin around it looked like it had been patched on. She couldn't be much older than me...

"Awww...She's worried people might stare or laugh", I thought...




I thought about her during lunch and then I went on with my window-shopping. But I could not stop thinking about the cashier...

My gut instinct told me to do something, but the question was...what? So I do what I always do when I am 'lost' in a mall: I went to the bookstore...


And then I thought: "How about I give her a card?" (People who know me well know I love giving cards).


But, there were still so many 'But's' and 'What if's'. Like 'But I don't know her' or 'What If she thinks I'm crazy?' or 'What if I can't do this properly and I end up embarrasing her?'...


In the end, I thought: "Aiya, who cares la?"




So I got her a tiny card, and I sat down and wrote to this girl I don't even know. I had caught a glimpse of her name-tag so I knew her name. I told her I think she was beautiful and brave because beauty is not measured by how we look, but rather by how we live our lives. I told her I know people at the food counter stare, but it's ok because it's not her fault. I also told her that she should smile at people, because if she does than people would realise she is just like us too, and if she smiled at me, I would smile back. I ended by asking if we could be friends, and left her my number.




I went back to the food court and bought a drink, and went back to the same counter to line up (trying to be as 'at the back' as possible). When it came to my turn, I again smiled at her, said 'Hello', paid for my drink, and as she gave me my change, I slipped the card into her hands. She lifted her head, her mouth open. I whispered 'For You', smiled and disappeared.

Now the ball was in her court. If she responded, good, I had a new friend. If she didn't, then oh well, it's ok. Just another person of the ever-growing list of people who think I'm mad ;)



I got an sms from her later that day. It read: "Hai thanx for your card, thanks for take care about me, you are so friendly, I like you, you are so pretty too".

I tell you, I was so happy I literally ran down the stairs to tell my mum I got an sms from a girl I didn't know. We chatted for a bit, and it turns out we were both of the same age. She also took STPM...


After a while, we lost touch. I did sms her 'Happy New Year', but there was no reply.





And then, just a few days ago, as I was just going to bed, I got this: "Hi Daphne Ling. How are you? Here ******, last time work in Jusco as cashier. U also gave me a memory card and wrote some support words, remember or not? What are you doing now?"



Awww...She remembers me! We made plans to meet up, although I don't know if time is on our side. After all, she is in university and won't be back anytime soon, and I'll be leaving in the very near future.

But I'm keeping my fingers (and toes!) crossed.



So what they say about friendship is true. You never know how or where your next friend might come from, and really, a RM 3.50 card helped me find one...




33 comments:

Ydiana said...

Hi Daph

From the first time I saw your pix, I've been wondering where have I met you. You looked so familiar and I just can't deny that you have a friendly face. A trait that must've belong to the same person. Then last week as I was tidying up, there, a newspaper article...Kylie Wong! The famous australian chef featured on astro asia food channel. I always watched her, but for a reason have not been on tv for so long (blogging, maybe..haha).

I don't know how close is the resemblance as we haven't met personaly, but there is resemblance alright.

Now, I can smile contently, no more wondering....

Ydiana said...

Hi again...

I left my first comment without reading your post...too excited, maybe.

That was so sweet of you. You touched another life. God bless you!

Anonymous said...

YES! people who look different are also human like everybody else. I agree 200 %! YES! Correct!

JZ said...

If you love giving cards you also must be the type of person who keeps all the cards people send to you. I know what would be the perfect gift for you now to go canada. Good job young lady.

Dalam Dakapan Ibu said...

Hi Daphne... Girl, you're definitely one of a kind! It's uncommon to find a person like you.

Keep up doing what you do. I'm sure you're the kind of person who are not pretentious.

Just be yourself.. you'll gain more friends by just being you.

Take care dear!

whre4arthou said...

Hah.. you actually did that ah nai!?

That is some guts.. I know we did a lot of 'siau' stuff last time but this is beyond me honestly..

I spoke up during the last meeting in uni and it totally embarassed me having 20 over Profs and Dr.'s look at me like I'm some nutcase :(

Okaylah.. to be fair they were nice about it.. but my voice was trembling and so was my hands and I feel like a nut :(

Boohoo.. so embarasssinnnggggggg

Anyways nai.. just to let you know that we've moved successfully.. bunnies very happy in their new place..

Will see you soon!

Muakziepoo!

mott said...

Daphne...

bless ur big BIG heart!!!

Zawi said...

Daph,
There ae not many people of your kind in this world. God bless you my child.

Ivan Yong said...

Hi Daphne,

Keep up the spirit. A lot of people got too caught up living other people's life and I am happy to see you are not one of them from a very early age.

Many takes years to discover and change that. Time flies and by the time they realise, age has caught up with them.

Good luck in Canada.!

sharlydia said...

u'r really kind & sweet...

Nightwing said...

Way to go...:)

U did the right thing and made some one happy..:)

Good stuff...keep it up.

Thanks again for sharing this.

Kerp (Ph.D) said...

oh woowww, that was very thoughtful. but coming from you, it didnt surprise me one bit.

imagine a guy to do that, the gesture may be interpreted wrongly, as in, somebody's trying to woo somebody, you know. guys always get that even when our intention's done in good faith...hehe...

wanshana said...

God bless you, dear... That was a very sweet thing that you did. Reading this really warms up my heart :)

And Kerp,

Next time you want to try doing the same thing without being misunderstood, put on your wig, bro... That'll do the trick. Hehehe!

Alexis-Marie said...

You have a very unique personality. Linking you :)

Take care in Canada girl. Don't forget to blog

bigbadwoof said...

I was just perusing the blogs seeing its one of those guilty pleasures this days that does not required one to reached in for change. Brief background Im a M'sian living in Berkeley in what was the apex of free speech and liberalism but times has caught up.I've noticed the culture here has transform from drunken excess and intemperance to a non empathy non caring society. People are so guarded, jaded etc. Props for your compassion and faith that we'll sorely in need.A small gesture aforementioned will someday..someone will passed it forward. For the record "I missed my home".CHEERS
MICHAELIAN IN ABYSS

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Ydiana,

Haha! You mean Kylie Kwong? I thought she looked like Jennifer! So I must look like her (Jenn) too then...;)

Alahai...They say there are 7 look-alikes in this world right? Well, I gotta just go look for the 4 of them...Hehehe...

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Anon 15:15,

Thanks for coming by...=)

I agree with you wholeheartedly too! No matter how people look, they're all human beings too, and for that, we are all equal. Yay! You got the main part of this post! *Salute*

Daphne Ling said...

Hi JZ,

Thanks for coming by too!

And yes, you got it right. I keep the cards I get...In a box...Unfortunately, I have not been able to keep all the CNY cards =(

I always feel that if people take the time to send you a card, you should treasure it...

After all, it takes a lot more time and thought than an emailed version, don't you think? You actually have to write, put it in an envelope, (find the address and) address it, stamp it and drive to the post box!

I'm guessing we might even share the same sentiments ;)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi DDI,

Why, thank you. I think you're unpretentious too, from reading your blog. Takes someone very special to be mum to two special kids...=)

You take care now, and *hugs* to all the little ones, especially Husna and Haziq...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Ae Mi,

Haha...Are you kidding ar? You think I not scared/worried/uncertain meh?

I thought about it for quite a while, and finally told myself that if I don't move my butt, she would finish her work already! Oh, that and the fact that I won't be able to sleep for a quite a while wondering why I didn't do it...;)

As for speaking up in front of all those Prof's and Dr's, well, better you than me...Hehe...Good job! *Hugs*

Give Chicken Pie and Wibble a cuddle for me (Which is the semi-blind one?). I hope to cuddle them myself soon...;) *Keeping fingers crossed*

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mott,

Thank you, and may God bless you and the little ones too =)


Hi Pak Zawi,

Again, thank you, and may God bless you too...There are many people who do crazy stuff like this la, you just haven't met them! Hehehe...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Ivan Yong,

Thanks for coming by and leaving a note.

I guess I do what I do because I am a believer of the 'Golden Rule'. Hammered into me since I was a kid ;)

And having had the opportunity to work and meet with so many special people (in 'controlled' settings, like hospitals), it was so heart-warming to see them out in the world, earning their bread.

And for that, I just had to tell her how special I thought she was...

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Sharlydia,

Thanks. How's your mum anyway? I heard everything was a success. Hope she and your family are doing well. Take care now, k? *Hugs*

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Sharlydia,

Thanks. How's your mum anyway? I heard everything was a success. Hope she and your family are doing well. Take care now, k? *Hugs*

Daphne Ling said...

Hey NightWing,

You're most welcome and thank you for sharing in this too!


Hi Kerp,

Not necessarily, actually. It depends on how you phrase what you want to say. It's important to think very carefully before putting thoughts to pen, and men too, can do that.

After all, someone very wise once told me "Sincerity can be felt in writing, even through just an email. It's easy to tell who really means what they say".

Ah, wise woman, that one...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Kak Wanshana,

Thank you for coming over and sharing in this. I guess different things warm different people's hearts huh? But that's good. There's enough for everyone then...=)

Daphne Ling said...

Hey Alexis-Marie,

Thanks for coming by and leaving me a comment. Appreciate it, and the linking =)

Daphne Ling said...

Hi BigBadWoof,

Thank you to you too for coming over.

Yeah, you're right. One good turn deserves another, like the show 'Pay It Forward' (Wait, did I get the title right?)...

I've had many good turns, so it's my turn to give them to someone else...Only fair that it doesn't die, don't you think?

Thanks for the reminder =) As for missing home, I will definitely too...soon...

the Razzler said...

Dear Daphne..

You never ceased to amaze me.. :) :)

You have touch & make someone's life special!!

God Bless you!!

IBU said...

Daphne dear,

All packed up & ready to go huh? I'll follow you like I usually do - through your blog laaa....

Friendships like the one you wrote on is one of a kind indeed!

Take care dear!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Uncle Jimmy,

A very happy belated birthday to you! Sorry I missed it, but I really didn't know until I visited your blog today...=(

Thanks for the wishes, by the way...And the very same to you and wifey!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Ibu,

Yes, yes, follow me! Hehe...I am sooo going to be homesick for all the friends here...My family means no need to say la...

I'm quite packed only la...Not completely yet.

You take care too...*Hugs*

Wai Wai said...

Daph, what you did is the most beautiful thing and touchy... I call that genuine care in action even to a stranger....