Sunday, 28 March 2010

Do you Believe in Karma?


There are a few things you learn when you live in residence. Tolerance is one of them...Patience is another...Learning to bite your tongue is probably another BIG one. After all, you never really know who your neighbours might just turn out to be.


For the first half of last year, I wanted to scream every night, because I lived next to a typical jock. He drank non-stop, he partied non-stop, and he spoke almost exclusively in 3-words ("what's up dude?" "how's it going?" etc) and after every party, he would apologise. I got so fed-up after the 2nd month of being kept up till 3-4am, I snapped at him and walked away. Not funny at all, because there was a broken window one night, a broken nose another night, and I don't-know-what else.

I finally moved out, and lived next door to a very quiet girl, Gail, and her equally quiet brother next door, whom till now we're friends.


And then came this year, where Gail and I got separated by a girl in between the two of us (we're sandwiching her). The girl-next-door was a nice thing, but holy smokes, her music was the bane of my residence-living. She loves to blast it, and it was so loud, that no matter how much I banged on her door, she won't hear me. I've tried, trust me. She has not heard me. I always say I will confront her nicely, but when you're hammering a door, how calm can you be? The result? I get so pissed off, I slam the door and leave my room in frustration.

Now I have very early morning schedules, and I usually take great pains to be quiet, but when people are not considerate with me, I just don't bother to be extra extra extra quiet too! After all, the number of times I have been jolted out of my sleep by that dratted music, and the number of times I have lost out on my afternoon naps when I could have had one...


Well, anyway, the girl-next-door had an injury the other night that required her to get some rest. I was feeling very sympathetic and empathetic, and the whole nine yards. And then apparently, I heard she complaint that residence was too noisy.

Hmmm...

Irony isn't it?


15 comments:

WP said...

Well, you don't hear noise until you want some quiet...

Anonymous said...

God works in mysterious ways my friend. what goes around comes around.

Anonymous said...

Yes I do believe in karma. Our actions bear consequences. It is not too difficult to observe this in our life.

But if what you are trying to ask is whether your neighbour's injury is due specifically to her karma of having been inconsiderate to others, then I would say that we cannot really tell for sure can we. It could be due to other karma. Also there are many causes and conditions for things that happen in our life, karma being only one of them.

If you sit down and think about the person you are now and reflect on the causes and conditions that have contributed towards you being who you are today, I am sure you will see that karma (i.e. the intentional actions you have done) is only one of them. Other conditions like family, the society, the environment, education, attitude, will power, industry, discipline, wisdom, intelligence, etc. etc. are contributory factors too.

So karma is not the only factor that determines the outcome of our life. It would be fatalistic to think otherwise because if everything is due to karma then there can be no exercise of will power. We will then not be able to choose between right and wrong. How terrible this would be, indeed.

Anyway, love your blog, great work, keep writing, and have a great and fruitful life...cheers

the Razzler said...

Yes.. Dear! I do believe in Karma! :)

tony -stand-up philosopher said...

hi, stay cool friend...

whre4arthou said...

Haha!!! That is so funny!!!

One and a half months away to having lots of fun!

david santos said...

Hello, Daphene.
Really great work. Have a nice week.

Salt N Turmeric said...

When karma bites, it bites big time. lol.

Dalam Dakapan Ibu said...

I juz have to say this - padan muka...hahaha..

Yeap, what goes around comes around!

** how r you girl?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi WP,

Whoot. That about sums it up! Never heard of it, but yeah, great saying!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon 10:26,

Yeah, He does. I'm not glad she got hurt; Interesting reaction from her though.

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Anon 10:52,

Wow--that was one profound comment. I had to read it a few times to take it all in.

You're right--karma (or whatever anyone wants to call it) does only play one portion of our lives, because there are so many things that come into play.

And it is here we realise we are the product of so many different factors. Guess Bronfenbrenner's
Ecological Systems Theory
was right!

Daphne Ling said...

Hello Uncle Jimmy,

Lol, short and sweet!


Hi Tony-stand up philosopher,

Oh believe me, I've been keeping my cool. Way too long, in fact!

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Mr.Santos,

Lol, ok! Thanks...


Hi Kak Farina,

Yeah, it sure does. When you least expect it too, eh?

Daphne Ling said...

Hi Aunty Ja (Dalam Dakapan Ibu),

You know, I realised there are a lot of sayings in Hokkien and Malay which analogises and sums everything up in just a phrase. And very hard to translate to English. Lol.

I'm good, by the way! Hope you are too.